Qur’an sets out basis of love

The Qur’an refers to love that stems from faith and has a profound impact on the soul. It takes hard work to possess that love. The concept of love in the Qur’an encapsulates the concepts of self-sacrifice, patience, generosity, care and protection. Our Lord reveals in the Qur’an that responding to evil and evil words in the finest possible manner and treating people well represents the basis of love.

If you ask people across the world, the majority will probably say they “know all about love and loving” and that they “love a great many people.” But the fact is that only very, very few people know love and how to love. What people imagine to be “love” is actually a feeling rather more like infatuation.
The passage of time makes it quite clear that this feeling is not love at all. True love is an emotion based on the love and approval of Allah, that never diminishes no matter how much time goes by, that can withstand time, difficulties, flaws and errors and that is always growing.

Respond evil with good
In the Qur’an, Allah commands people to respond to evil with good: “A good action and a bad action are not the same. Repel the bad with something better and, if there is enmity between you and someone else, he will be like a bosom friend.” (Qur’an, 41:34)
Allah has promised believers an auspicious outcome when they respond to evil with good. He notes that even if there is a state of enmity between them and the other person, a warm friendship can still emerge. This is also a requirement of believers’ conception of love and compassion.
When they see that the other party is behaving badly and in a manner displeasing to Allah, they first think that this behavior is a danger to that person in terms of the hereafter and approach that person with tolerance and modesty, avoiding pride and arrogance, and adopt a humble way of speaking. They never adopt the logic of “The person in error or who does wrong must be the first to apologize” or “To hell with them,” an attitude common among people who do not live by Qur’anic moral values.
They know that Allah will approve of the behavior of whoever behaves well, and that to respond to evil with good is the behavior most compatible with the moral values of the Qur’an. For that reason, they regard humility as gaining them something rather than a source of loss.
Believers may encounter all kinds of people during their lives. But they never alter their moral conception on the basis of other people’s behavior. Other people may speak mocking or ugly words, become angry or behave badly.
But the believer never changes his good manners, modesty, compassionate affection and loving behavior. He never replies to bad words with bad words of his own.
He never responds to mockery or anger with mockery or anger of his own. He always responds to offensive behavior with a tolerance, compassion and love that serves to embarrass the other party and make them want to behave better. He is always calm and moderate in the face of anger.
Of course, this behavior on the part of a believer has an entirely rational dimension; it never puts him in a position whereby he can come to harm. He never allows himself or other believers to come to any harm or to suffer any wrong.
But with his good behavior he also preaches the moral virtues commanded by the faith. And by adopting the moral values beloved of Allah, he tries to attract the other party toward religious moral values.
However, we must also not forget that someone else behaving badly is no excuse for exhibiting poor moral values oneself. Everyone is individually and ultimately responsible to Allah for his actions.
Being able to respond to bad behavior with affection, compassion, moral virtue and love is, according to the Qur’an, a sign of superior morality because this proper attitude on the part of the believer shows the power and intensity of his devotion to Allah.
That person is patient solely because that value will be pleasing to Allah.
Allah reveals that He will twice reward this superior patience people exhibit regarding living by the moral values of the Qur’an: “They will be given their reward twice over because they have been steadfast and because they ward off the bad with the good and give from what we have provided for them.” (Qur’an, 28:54)

Signs of a believer
Almost everyone will come across loveless and ruthless people in their lives. These people are unaffected by almost everything that goes on or is said around them and use a harsh form of language.
There is no doubt that it is none other than Satan who leads these people to lovelessness and ruthlessness. Satan does not want people to have good conscience or to be rational, submissive, grateful, tolerant, pleased with Allah’s creation, full of love and showing moral virtue to those around them.
Yet Almighty Allah has created human nature to make things easy and put others at their ease, so people will sacrifice themselves if necessary, do this without letting the other party know, to adapt to all legitimate things and to be full of love.
Believers, who use this attribute created by Allah very well, calm down the environment they find themselves in and always have a positive impact. This harmonious, calming, positive, warm and relaxing character that believers exhibit to those around them out of their love of Allah is an excellent sign of a believer.
Allah reveals in the Qur’an how He has created the blessing of love for believers: “As for those who believe and do right actions, the All-Merciful will bestow His love on them.” (Qur’an, 19:96)
The true source of the love for other people that believers feel in their hearts is their love of Allah. Knowing that Allah created the joy they feel in their hearts and that Allah is manifested in all things is the true source of profound human love.
Allah has created human beings with “souls,” in contrast to all other living things. Therefore, and again in contrast to all other living things, the effect that the riches in one’s soul will have on another person will also be different.
The love that everyone experiences is directly proportional to the beauty in one’s soul. The more traits deserving of love and respect one has, the more people will love and respect them.
In the same way, the more sensitive one is to the traits deserving of love and respect in other people, the more one will see such beauties in others and love and respect them in proportion.
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The writer has authored more than 300 books translated in 73 languages on politics, religion and science.